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Learn To Relax: The Importance Of Having An Unwind Routine.

In lifestyle on November 27, 2023 at 12:00 pm
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Oftentimes we hear of the importance of having a morning routine. “Wake up before 5am” and “Rise and Grind” are some of the popular phrases we hear when it comes to the goal or desire of being your best self or being a top performer. And although you may not get up at 5 am every morning (or ever), it is important to have a routine that is energizing, productive, gives direction and sets the tone for the day – no matter what time you wake up in the morning.

But what happens at the end of your day after you are done thinking, doing and being? Chances are you are exhausted and have not even given another “routine” a second thought. But let’s not think of it as another routine or thing to do. Think of it as prioritizing your wellbeing.

The Importance Of Prioritizing Your Well Being

Words like “self-care”, “mindfulness” and “wellness” continue to be the big buzzwords as it relates to taking care of your mind and body. The wellness industry and the multitude of businesses and products that fuel the industry, might, in some cases, feel like this wellness concept is just marketing – a ploy to take your money. Even if that is the case, it’s still worth noting that becoming more mindful of your personal health and wellbeing is important. So whether you work from home, a physical workspace, or are searching for employment, it’s a good idea to consider creating an “after hours” wind down routine.

What is an “After Hours” Wind Down Routine?

Think of your after hours wind down routine as a group of behaviors or activities that help you to create boundaries between your work and personal life. Something intentional to help you disconnect. For instance, many people have found that it is important to have something to look forward to after a long day at work. That may include meeting up with friends at your favorite bistro, going to a bookstore or stopping by your favorite specialty shop for a bottle of wine and charcuterie for a quiet evening at home. Whatever activity you choose after a long day can give you a chance to decompress, re-focus and re-center yourself. Choosing some specific fun and fulfilling activities can also help you have more sound sleep.

Below are some helpful tips to help you create an evening unwind routine:

Be Intentional About Creating Boundaries.

This refers to physical and mental spaces or boundaries. Creating separate spaces in your home for various activities is important especially if you work from home. If you don’t have a lot of space, it can be a section or small area in a room. If work is outside of the home this might be easier, especially if you don’t have to bring your work home with you. If you have to stay connected to work outside of regular business hours, find a way to disconnect away from your work space, even if it’s for 15 minutes: meditate, do some deep breathing, listen to a short podcast or read something uplifting or inspirational. Also, if you work from home, create a separate space for work. This could be a small desk or table. If your office is your couch, be intentional about putting work things away before you unwind or move onto the next activity for the evening. Consider a nice organizer/cabinet to store everything neatly and out of sight.

Clean Up Your Space. Put Your Items Away.

Have you ever noticed that when your living space is chaotic and messy, you feel out of sorts, dazed and confused? Not on your A-game? Get into the habit of returning your living space back to zero before going to bed. This means taking 10 minutes or so to put things away that you have used – books, blankets, technology, dishes. There is nothing more dehumanizing than to wake up (or come home to) a messy home. Furthermore, when you come home from work (or wherever you’ve been) hang up your coat, put your keys/purse/belongings in a central location. This prevents the morning scurry and confusion of looking for those important items that you use to help you navigate the day.

Shut Everything Off For A Few Hours.

Yes everyone is an entrepreneur, a hustler and needs to stay connected. But still – take an hour or so to disconnect. If an hour seems too long, try 10 minutes and gradually increase your time. This gives you a chance to regroup and/or unwind. This can look a little different if you have a family and/or a pet because everyone needs and wants your attention. Try creating boundaries with those you live with and get them on the same page with an unwind routine.

Have A Nighttime Self Care Routine.

Create a routine that you look forward to indulging in. Make shower/bath time more luxurious. Create a space that you love being in. Do you need to upgrade your bathroom decor? Maybe add some plants, pictures, candles and figurines? Perhaps new plush towels and new shower curtains. What products are you using to cleanse and care for your face and body? Invest in more luxurious and efficacious bath, body and skin care. And when applying your products, slow down. Take your time. This can be a wonderful part of your day because it makes you slow down and become more intentional with your thoughts and actions.

Make Sleep A Priority.

You should actually look forward to getting into your bed. Yes we live in a hustle culture and people are shamed for attending to the biological need for sleep which is important. Is your bed comfortable? What about your pillows? Are they fluffy and clean? What does your linen look and feel like? Is your bedroom even clean? Consider making some upgrades to your bedroom decor.

Change Your Clothes.

This is very important if you are working outside of your home. To move about your home (sitting on your couch, your bed, etc.) in your outside clothes isn’t sanitary. And if you use public transportation, your clothes and shoes should be taken off AT. THE. DOOR. You can also think of changing your clothes when you get home as a gesture of taking the day off. Doing so can also can help you to make that mind shift from day to evening. And when you change your clothes, take a shower and put on something comfy and nice – not what you wore to clean the bathroom. If you are enjoying a night in, consider wearing nice loungewear and fluffy slippers. Add some fragrance to elevate the entire experience.

Schedule Some Fun After Work Activities.

This can work even if you choose not to go out as much. Consider doing a weekly Zoom call with family or friends while you all eat a delicious dinner in your respective homes – like a virtual happy hour. Create a theme. Have a beverage. Or two. Other fun activities include starting a hobby or project. Start journaling. It doesn’t have to be everyday but make it something fun to look forward to.

Light A Candle.

Or several. At a time. Carefully. Investing in good candles that burn well and smell amazing will definitely shift the atmosphere of your living space. Lighting candles can signal your process of shifting gears for the evening. Be sure to use this candle specifically for the purpose of winding down – nothing else. Also use it in a place that you have designated for relaxation and not your work space.

In Conclusion…

This is not an exhaustive list of activities and mindsets to create when it comes to creating an evening unwind routine. It’s all about using your imagination and resources to create a routine that works for you.

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8 Self Care Practices To Incorporate Into Your Life Now

In Health, lifestyle on February 17, 2021 at 8:30 am
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The term self care and all that is associated with it may be a trendy buzzword for some but it is becoming a necessary way of life for others. Many people are beginning to see the importance of intentionally slowing down, re-evaluating their lives, and taking inventory of their mental health and well-being and doing something about it.

When you hear the term self care, what comes to mind? Getting your hair and nails done?  Going to your favorite restaurant? Retail therapy?  There isn’t a right or wrong answer per se as self care can mean different things to different people. Activities such as the one’s previously mentioned can be considered self-care because they encourage one to take time for themselves and can even add some much needed fun to one’s day. However, these activities may only address the physical or surface needs and desires of an individual and not deal with the deeper emotional needs and concerns that one may have. A broader definition or vision of self care can also mean getting therapy, meditating, spending time with friends or reading a good book

What Exactly Is Self Care?

First, we should re-frame our mind around self care, what it is and who it is for.  Self care is for everyone and there are many ways to do it.  Because it can still be considered trendy, it’s easy for it’s importance to get lost in the sea of swoon-worthy Instagram posts of beautifully arranged bath photos (nothing wrong with Instagram and beautiful bath photos).  With that said, think of self care as something you do frequently and intentionally to positively impact your mental, emotional and physical being.  It’s about creating health and wellness habits that will sustain you in the long run.  It’s not a once in a while occurrence – it’s about tiny habits that you create that lead to living a better life, thus empowering and energizing you.

But I Don’t Have Time.

This is a common statement I hear from many people – women in particular.  Women have been conditioned from an early age that putting themselves first is selfish.  It is your job to take care of everyone else because that is what a “good” woman does but this is not entirely true. Whatever the case, it is important to make time specifically for yourself and not put it on the back burner until you have some sort of crisis such as a health scare or mental breakdown because you have been running on all cylinders.  You know when you get on a plane and before takeoff they tell you to that in the event of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first before you help those around you with their oxygen masks?  It’s the same thing in your daily life – take care of yourself first and you will be able to take better care of everyone and everything else in your life.

Benefits Of Self Care.

There are many benefits of getting into the habit of taking care of yourself such as the following:

  • Focus.  You will be more focused and in tune to your needs when you take regular time for yourself.  You will also be better able to reflect on things that need to get done in your personal, professional and family life.
  • Better Self-Worth.  Having a healthy relationship with yourself will boost your confidence and self esteem.  You will be able to address those areas in your life that are not at your personal standard so you can make improvements.  You will also be empowered to set boundaries with yourself and others.
  • Stress Reduction.  Being able to step away to reduce stress and anxiety is a great way to lower your risk for things like heart disease and snapping on family, friends, co-workers.
  • Productivity. Self care can help you set better priorities for yourself so you know what’s important such as doctor appointments, visiting loved ones and even writing that book or taking that class you’ve always wanted to take.

Activities that you can include in your self care practice:

The Art of Saying No.  Saying no can be the most loving thing that you can do for yourself.  When you know your limitations, whether it be emotional, professional, relational or financial, saying no can prevent things from interfering with your well-being.  It may be a hard no which is final (like “no and don’t ask me that again”) or it can be a soft no, (like “not right now” or “I want to be sure that I am able to give you my undivided attention, how is Tuesday evening”)  Only you will know what kind of “no” to give.

Stop Apologizing.  Somewhat related to saying “no”, don’t feel you need to apologize for the decisions you make regarding the need to take care of yourself or anything else in your life.

Be Gentle With Yourself.  Sometimes the thing we say to and about ourselves is not very kind.  Would you speak to others the way you speak to yourself?  Probably not.  Treat yourself like your own best friend.  When you make mistakes or miss the mark, don’t berate yourself.  By making time for yourself, you can examine those areas of yourself and your life that need improvement so you will have a sense of accomplishment and feel good about yourself.

Watch Your Mouth.  Even more important, what are you thinking?  Because what you think shapes what you say.  Your words have creative power and become your reality.  You tend to nurture your reality with words and behaviors and that is what grows in your life – whatever it is.  So speak only the things you want to be true over your life.

Become Still/Incorporate Quiet Time.  Even when you are busy, you need to have quiet time.  As a matter of fact, that is when it is most important.  You might be having the craziest work day ever or you may have to care for rambunctious children and you probably only have 5 minutes to yourself.  Use them to get quiet and re-center yourself.  Quiet time is also the perfect time to pray and meditate.

Plan Time Away.  Be intentional about taking time off for vacation.  Nothing re-energizes you more than getting away from your regular grind and surroundings.  If you dont have the resources of time or money to go far away, do something local like getting a nice hotel room in the city for the weekend and act like a tourist.  Something else you can do is switch up your daily routine. This might mean taking a different route to work or taking the morning off. Doing so keeps your brain healthy by strengthening your neural pathways and this will also help you discover new things.

Set Boundaries/Expectations.  Make it a common practice to let people know what you need and expect from them so that you never feel like you are being taken advantage of.  For example, if you don’t want people calling or texting you after a certain time, let them know instead of being mad about it.  If you don’t want someone borrowing your favorite scarf – ever, say so.  If it angers you when people don’t show up on time, say so.  Furthermore, don’t worry about managing their emotions around said boundaries and expectations.

Be Mindful Of Who You Spend Time With. The truth of the matter is that some people are energy vampires and can be quite negative.  If you feel depleted instead of empowered when in the company of certain people, it may be time to re-evaluate the company you keep.

Whatever practices you choose to incorporate into your life, be intentional and consistent.  These are practices that may take time to develop and you may have to rearrange some things in your current daily practices for these things to become more permanent in your life.

What self care practice resonated with you?  Do you have some self care practices that not mentioned above that you utilize on a regular basis?  Please share your thoughts below.

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